"Have-To/Get-To" is a distinction used in transformational trainings, introduced by John Enright, that involves shifting our mindset and attitude from feeling like we "have to" do something to feeling like we "get to" do it. The idea is to reframe our perspective and see tasks or responsibilities as opportunities rather than burdens.
A "Have-To" typically refers to tasks that we feel compelled or obligated to do. It often implies a sense of duty, necessity, or burden. Examples of "have-to" activities could include work assignments, household chores, or fulfilling obligations to others.
On the other hand, "Get-To" conveys a sense of privilege, opportunity, or excitement about engaging in an activity. In transformational trainings, we emphasize the power and freedom, as well as the enhanced life experience created when we transform our attitude from viewing a task as a "have-to" to a "get-to." For example, instead of saying, "I have to go to work today," we can say, "I get to go to work today and earn a living." This small shift in language and attitude can have a profound impact on our life experience and energy towards any task at hand.
The "Get-To" attitude promotes a sense of gratitude and appreciation for the things we may take for granted, such as having a job, a home, or good health. By shifting our perspective, we can cultivate a more positive and empowered outlook on life and, as a result, experience "Fuzzies" (the experiences and feelings associated with approaching life with a "get-to" attitude). Conversely, when we approach life with a "Have-To" attitude, we experience "Grungies" (the experiences and feelings associated with approaching life with a "have-to" attitude).
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